Characteristics of People Who Have Not be Dating

Summary of the book "Two Hearts One Million Sense" Part 7

By : Gilbert Lumoindong 

Characteristics of people who have not be dating

a. Do not know Jesus as a Source of True Love

If you do not know Jesus personally, I'd suggest not going out first. Why? I am very sure, the source of true love that exists only in the Lord Jesus Christ. So if people do not know the source of true love, it was impossible he could give real love to others.

If Christianity were still living in half measures, I suggest fix and improve it before going out, because his/her life could be destroyed. Why get destroyed? Because before you know real love, it would be difficult to accept the weaknesses of a boyfriend/girlfriend or even forgive his/her mistakes. It is conceivable relationship with your spouse to be colored by the conflict and disharmony.

b. Bored Or Nice Adventure

People like this do not be dating, because he/she has not been able to build something permanent. Such people still like to try adventure and 'taste' a lot of things. If people like this dating, it can be very dangerous, because it will only be used as experimental courtship and guinea pigs. If there is a slight problem in dating, it becomes easy to "cranky" and eventually moved to another heart with a variety of reasons.
I must remind seriously, that there are people who basically are bored. People like this have never put up with something that is binding and requires commitment.
Therefore, as long as he could not eliminate the nature of his bored, he/she has not been feasible to date.

c. Cannot yet committed

People who can not commit his words usually cannot be held. Morning is green and afternoon becomes blue. Such persons generally do not be firm and hard to believe. His/her character as a kite. Where the wind blows, it will come.

d. Childish

Such a person is obtaining its demands. He/she never felt that he/she was wrong, it's easy "cranky" and sulk for no apparent reason. Dating someone like this makes your life a heavy burden, because it is required to always understand our partner. Courtship will do anything to be childish. Many quarrels and conflicts that can occur. So should the person is not going out first, before he/she could be more mature.

e. Cannot Refuse or Unable Expression

Some people are hard to say: NO! This is dangerous, because it is hard to resist something that is obviously wrong though. People who cannot say NO, it is usually too difficult to convey opinions. He/she simply just goes with the flow and the more others will follow.

f. People Who "Really Stupid" Or Will not advised

People who do not want to take advice, usually principled: I am the one who has the right to set myself, what I wanted, it came to pass. Because courtship is a time of preparation for marriage, then the period should be lived with many compromises, agreements, and adjustments, and even changes here and there.

g. Holiness is not considered that the Responsibility of the Believer

People of this type will tend to "graze", their principles, hopefully I can keep the holiness, but if not, no problem.  

I am certainly not saying that going out is identical to the sin, but the period of courtship we can be alert while still maintaining the sanctity of life.